Adoption Services, Counseling & Education

Finding Community as an Adoptee

Finding community as an adoptee can be both meaningful and challenging. Read The Cradle’s guide on how and why to connect with other adopted people.

Many adoptees navigate complex emotions and unique life experiences that can feel isolating, especially when those around them haven’t shared similar journeys. Community with other adopted people can be meaningful, but it isn’t always easy to find. Discover ways to find community as an adult adopted person, or to help your adopted child find community.

Why Community is Important

For many adopted people, finding a supportive community of others who share similar experiences can be validating. Adoption can bring up a wide range of emotions and questions about identity, family, belonging and more. Having the opportunity to talk, listen and learn from others who understand those complexities can help normalize thoughts and feelings that might otherwise feel confusing or isolating. Adoptees often express relief in being around others who “just get it,” people with whom they don’t have to explain the nuances of adoption.

Community also offers practical benefits. Adopted people can compare experiences, reflect on whether something is part of their individual personality or connected to adoption and learn from others who have gone through similar journeys. For those considering contact with birth relatives, connecting with fellow adoptees can provide a valuable sounding board, offering encouragement and perspective.

In addition, community spaces often serve as gateways to resources and services that support adoptees, from mental health professionals familiar with adoption to workshops, support groups and educational materials. By connecting with others, adoptees gain emotional support and tools to navigate their lives with greater clarity and confidence.

Tips for Adopted Adults

For adopted adults seeking community, most spaces and resources have moved online, making them more accessible than ever regardless of location or schedule. Some in-person events and groups may still be available depending on your area.

Support groups specifically for adopted adults are a great way to make connections with other adopted people. Conferences hosted by national or international adoption organizations can also be a powerful way to meet others face-to-face, engage in workshops and deepen one’s understanding of adoption-related themes.

For those adopted from other countries, there are often organizations and groups specifically focused on intercountry or transracial adoption. These spaces can offer culturally relevant events and resources that help adoptees explore connections to their heritage alongside others with shared backgrounds.

Facebook groups offer a space to share experiences, ask questions, find resources and connect with others who are navigating similar journeys. Podcasts hosted by adoptees create space for storytelling, education and reflection.

No matter where someone is on their journey, these resources provide meaningful entry points for finding support, building relationships and exploring identity in a community of peers.

Tips for Adopted Children

For adopted children, finding a sense of belonging early can be especially meaningful. While support groups for young children are less common, workshops and family-centered events play a vital role in helping kids connect with others who share similar experiences.

One such workshop is the W.I.S.E. UP!® program, which is designed to create a safe space for children to express their feelings about being adopted and prepare them for intrusive questions and insensitive remarks. These types of workshops not only build confidence but also help normalize adoption-related feelings by showing kids they are not alone.

Family events such as adoption picnics, cultural celebrations and group outings can be powerful opportunities for children to see other families who look and live like theirs. These gatherings can help children form a positive narrative around their adoption story.

Adoption camps are another valuable space where children can spend extended time in community. In these settings, they not only have fun but also build relationships, explore identity and engage in activities surrounded by those who understand the adoption experience.

These programs benefit parents as well, offering a chance to connect with other families and better support their children’s emotional and social development.