There is no fixed definition for "normal" behavior. It varies by person, time, place and situation. Challenges may crop up for your family that therapists in The Cradle’s Center for Lifelong Adoption Support (CLAS) can help you work through.
No matter what your relationship is with your adopted tween or teen’s birth family, your child may look on the Internet or social media out of curiosity for connections her birth family. If she expresses a wish to friend her birthmom on Facebook or you stumble on a Google search in progress, what should you do? Should you try to help, warn her of your concerns or disconnect your home Internet?