Michelle chose open adoption with The Cradle Adoption Agency for her daughter
I found out I was pregnant when I was 16. So at the time I was in high school, just going to school. You go through this initial phase of denial and think that maybe this is a fluke, maybe this isn’t really happening. And, it was real, and it was scary, and it was overwhelming. You sort of come up with a list of all your options, and really it only comes down to three options. You can parent, adoption, or abortion. But you kind of always struggle with these decisions, it’s very situational. One day I was thinking is abortion the way, one day I was thinking maybe I can raise the baby, and another day I was thinking this is for me at all. Going into adoption, I went into it with a very clear sense that adoption was this very forever decision and I think the more that I spent time with Heather, the more that she told me about the Cradle, the more she explained to me what open adoption is, and the autonomy with still that close connection…I think my feelings on adoption completely changed to “is this something to be scared of” to “is this something to be very welcome into our lives.” It’s difficult to go into it saying I know exactly what I want for my children. You want the perfect parents for your child and you also want to give them everything you know you can’t. Ultimately, I did find the couple that just…they just…I connected with them on paper, and I think it really, truly was meant to be. It was the only couple that I ended up meeting, and are now the parents of my daughter. Nothing prepares you for what happens after the baby is born. Your emotions completely change, it’s real. The baby is here and she’s beautiful and she’s yours and she looks just like you. You know, there was never a question of whether I was making the right decision, ever. But, being able to rely on The Cradle and their knowledge of having dealt with women who had gone through the same exact things, and had questions and concerns. They really truly at the end of the day, aside from my parents, were a rock of support. Adoption is not scary. It is beautiful. And I think adoption is the most selfless act you can do as a human being, in your life. To give life, and then give life again. I am a living example of how it really does work, it really is okay, there is no need for a negative connotation. And there’s really no need to say goodbye forever.