Megan Chose Adoption with The Cradle for Her Son


 

Megan Chose Adoption with The Cradle Adoption Agency for Her Son

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Slide: Megan chose adoption for her son. Megan: My name’s Megan. Well, I was 15 years old when I became pregnant and placed my son for adoption. It was an overwhelming feeling because you’ve got to figure out what you’re going to do. You’ve got this little life depending on you. Adoption was one thing that my parents really wanted us to look into and I really respect my parents opinions on things so I definitely looked into it. Definitely after talking to my counselor, I felt like I had more power back in my life. When she talked about the decision of placing and all the different things, it was never a done deal. It was like, “well if you decide to place, what kind of parents would you like,” or “if you choose this, here are your option.” It felt like it gave me back power. Because when I found out I was pregnant I felt like the floor had dropped out beneath me and I didn’t know what to do or what was going to happen. It was just very unknown and very and scary. Slide: On selecting the family… Megan: One family stuck out in particular. It was the way they talked in their letter to me. It was never “the baby” or “the child,” it was “our baby,” “our child,” like I was still going to be a part of his life and that was something I really wanted. It was something that really spoke to me. And I actually met them when I was about 7 months pregnant. We had a match meeting here at The Cradle. And we found out that not only are they Irish Catholic like my family but they also come from a similar if not the same counties in Ireland that my family comes from, they have a large extended family as well. Slide: On when her son was born… Megan: I was in the hospital for two days, he was with me both days, and then he actually came to The Cradle’s nursery and he was here for about a week. I visited him every day that I could. And then on the Monday after I had him, my whole family came here and we had a whole big family meeting because I had a lot of younger siblings because I’m the oldest so none of them could come see me in the hospital. I wanted them to have a chance to say their goodbyes and what they wanted, to hold him and have their moment with him. Slide: How do you talk about adoption now? Megan: It’s definitely something that I try to inform people about when it does come up. Most of my friends and family, they know. It’s not something that I hide or anything like that. If they have any questions, if they have friends who end up, you know, I end up being the person they kind of go to when somebody finds out they’re pregnant. They come and talk to me about adoption, just asking questions and I always said that if you want to email me, Facebook, whatever, call me, feel free, I don’t mind answering any questions and telling you how it really is because there’s a lot of people who don’t know how it really is Slide: How did you know adoption was right for you? Megan: I know I did what was right. I know I did the best I could at the time with the resources I had. I didn’t have a job, I didn’t have any health insurance. I was 15 years old and I was still living at home with my parents, still in high school. I’ve accomplished so much since then, even with that, I know that I would not have been able to give him the life that he deserved to life. The best for not only myself, but for him and for his biological father and for my parents and for his adoptive parents. It was the best decision around for everybody. Everybody wins.